Open Question: WHY DOES SHE CONTROL MY LIFE?

She is Japanese. Grew up in japan, but went to college in american and is now more america. She dosent know american kid life. my dad is in the AF so we move alot, right now were in japan. i love learing about my other culture. my mom hates it and wants to keep japanese away from me. i got to an AF kids school. so its alot of ppl "like" me. im in 8th grade, middle school. my school cliques in mostly by race. i hang out with mostly "asains" and my bestie and Japanese and Filipina (sp?) . My mom dosent let me see my friends. and says that i need to make new friends. she says that i am racist and retarted for making asain friends. she says i need 'amercian' friends. but the black kids are all kinda gansta or really like, not someone i wan to ttly hang out with. (no racist, but this is my school) and the white ppl are like, preppy and drama queens and etc. i just want to hang out with pppl i like. Also my mom controls my hobbies, i love soccer, but i hate cheerleading. but yet she makes me cheer and no soccer. i get really serious about soccer and she gets mad, beacause i hate cheerleading. Again all the cheerleaders are white so she wants me to do that. (no racist) And then she controls the way i dress. i am not allowed to wear bright colors. (WTF?) i have to wear "neatural" colors. and i am only allowed jeans. and no accesories cept for studs. i wanted to wear slides(shoes) to school and she said i look like trash. She controls how i do my homework to, she says that i need to do history first. and that my Japanese homework is the least important. She makes fun of me, calls me names, and dosent listen. everyday i try to talk to her. but everyday we have a fight. its not fair. my dad is never home.